My brother, I’m sorry, I’ve not been able to reach out or even make any comment on the matter since it broke out
It was my sister Ruth Osime of Arisetv that reached out yesterday to ask me my thoughts and I told her I was on ur side but begged her to keep it secret
You know this adultery matter, it’s now – na who dem catch – since everyone and everybody is a major player
So one has to thread carefully bf one sees his bum all over social media and you know me I am just recovering from scabies on my bum making the sight not a very pleasurable view
My brother, when I saw you at Abu’s anniversary at the Wheatbaker the other day, I did not know you were going through so much
If I had known, I would have taken u to one corner and given you a secret hug
But that said, let me convey to you the secret support of the brotherhood, you must understand that this our support can only be under the carpet since we are abiding very religiously to the ethos of – those who live in glass houses
Be assured that if you survive, we will welcome you back, but for now, we have to treat you like you have Ebola before you drag us into the wahala
My brother, let me risk my own head and come out of the shelter and advise you hoping that the bees on your scrotum would not suddenly descend on me
You see, I blame you for all these. This is your second marriage and the way you have handled this one shows that you did not learn anything from the first
You see, women are the easiest to handle. They respond to what you offer them
Remember that saying: if you give a woman a house, she turns it into a home. Now, the converse is true: if you give her matches, she will give you fire.
You lit the fire and your madam has turned it into an inferno
She not only carried your alleged cheating as a justification but turned it into an Olympic sport with a six-pack juvenile
To make it worse, you now mess up the fallout with all these alleged leaks and purile damage control
She is winning in the face of a fickle public while you are struggling to explain and defend.
My brother, let me tell you one hard truth – from those recordings that I have heard, your wife fell in love
Two types of women step out – transactional and those who fall in love
The ones who fall in love are the ones who are almost impossible to get back
You drove your wife to go and fall in love with the ‘little boyfriend’ according to Toke Makinwa to the extent that she was trying to convince him that a little scandal would not affect his career
Let me dimension her support base.
Three major groupings of women are supporting her
One, the chewing gum Gen Zs who are carried away with Chike’s celebrity and looks. It’s a beautiful fairytale story that is very difficult to resist by that demographic and that is why they are flocking to him and supporting her
The second is the huge numbers of single middle-aged women, divorcees, single mothers and frustrated feminists who see this as a victory for the category and also as an inspiration that if God could do it for her, he will do it for them too
The third category is the women defenders who are blinded and support anything womanhood even if that woman is a mass murderer – na man go don push am
These groupings are loud, aggressive and bold
You on the other hand have muted hidden support from men who will not come out openly for fear that their own secrets would be exposed
The younger boys are not with u cos they have spent all their teenage years fantasising about shaggiing their big aunties, landlady, and school teachers find this story very captivating and if you give them a chance, they will replace Chike very quickly on your long-suffering matrimonial bed
So my brother what would you now do
Be the bigger boy and wave the white towel.
You should never have said a word from the beginning. Silence is very dignified or at best you should have gotten professional media advice (I’m available)
Secondly, reach out to your estranged wife and consider the children’s mental state and future and push for a ceasefire
What you are facing now is what Americans call Mutually Assured Destruction (MAD) but you would have died long ago before she dies
So sue for peace and if she doesn’t agree which I suspect she will not cos she has been stripped of her dignity as a woman and when this happens the woman fights to the end- you just keep quiet and stay silent and hopefully this will blow off
My brother, let me run back into my cave as I have taken a big risk to come out to advise you, na pity wey I pity u
Please cease and desist, just go mute
Nobody should beat me on this one o, Na my Akwa Ibom brother
Duke of Shomolu
Last modified: May 21, 2026
