Tayo, and this is also to everyone. The secret of my success in life has been my expertise in human relations
It’s the simple way to influence people and get them to do your bidding no matter what, and, most especially, to enjoy doing it.
People see how I get my way with people, walk the room, smiling, hugging, and generally getting people to love me
It’s called goodwill, and it’s strong especially in business, relationships and all
The magic is truly very simple. In written and verbal interactions, respect and humility are all you need
In verbal communications, which seems to be the problem with a lot of people, you use the very simple but compelling buzzwords
Please, kindly, if you don’t mind, at your convenience and then end it with thanks, thank you so much, I’m very appreciative, and kill it with God bless you.
In physical interactions, smile, bow your head gently if male, kneel slightly if female, lock eyes, listen more, gentle hug-does more wonders than handshake in most cases, don’t ask curved questions, nod head in acceptance and show genuine interest
If you practice these things, you will be an expert, and you won’t be leaving every interaction with the other person wondering what just happened
These simple skills would give you the kind of power over people that would amaze you
This is what Politicians use. They are experts in this, and this is why they can corral millions of people to think they share a mandate
This is my power. This is why people feel they are part of the vision cos of my genuine interest in their wellbeing, my respect for them, especially in my interactions
Why do you think Otunba Bimbo Ashiru is working his phones for me, raising millions and even trying to secure the VP for our Masterclass
It’s simply cos I respect him, show it, make him feel he is part of my vision, and lastly, I show him appreciation all of the time
I never use commanding words on people, no matter what, except when I’m truly irritated and annoyed
Never use words like – come here, get me this, I instruct you, etc
They are demeaning and go to the dignity of the person and rubs off negatively on their ego
Since you are in authority, they will heed your instructions, but at the slightest opportunity, they will rebel, and that is why you say – ohh she is a set builder and not a designer and that is why she can’t go on the Internet to download a common picture which is out of her JD
It’s a failure in influence cos of the way she has been interacting with
I will make her wash my underwear if I were working with her
Instead of saying – Oriel, can you get the pictures, I’ll say, wow, Oriel, I’m so excited working with you, I’ve heard so much about you and Nigerians would marvel at your work. Is it possible, you kindly just go outside of your JD to get the pics so that we don’t sully your beautiful set with an amateur pic. Thanks so so much, I truly do appreciate your efforts – simple
Only a witch would not get that pic
So let this be a quick masterclass to all of you on how to influence people and get them to do your bidding
Watch me and learn, cos I’m the king – Kai, arrogance will not kill me.
Come and beat me
Duke of Shomolu
Last modified: August 12, 2026
