The young man stares intently at me and utters those words – Edgar, I don’t fuck my wife anymore
Without flinching, I respond, Nobody fucks their wives anymore
He stares in surprise, and I restate it- Bro, I don’t know anyone in a marriage that has lasted over 10 years that is still fucking their spouses
This is one open secret nobody likes to talk about in public but is being whispered in beer parlours, girls meet-ups, and those kinds of places
In our generation – 45 – 60, it’s an epidemic.
We are mostly not fucking our spouses again, and when not divorced or separated, we just move to the other room and masturbate or indulge in whatever suits us
Most people in this situation either go celibate, indulge in self-pleasure, or step out and curate new partners
My task this afternoon is not to judge but to blow it wide open that we in that age demographic are no longer fucking our spouses. Simple
The reasons differ from couple to couple but can be coagulated into some generic reasons
Grown incompatibility, extended family problems, health, financial challenges, or just plain dislike
If you ask me though, I will put most of the blame firmly in the hands of the women
Women come into these relationships with very funny expectations, and when these expectations are not met, they switch off
They cannot even pretend and ‘manage’ the man, and for men, regular denial bruises the ego, and that leads to permanent disinterestedness
The expectations could be material, physical, emotional, psychological; once it happens, the woman is gone, and she draws the line
Before women bite my head, let me explain one specific truth
A man does not have to like you to sleep with you. Even if you are the Witch of Eastwick, he can still make himself sleep with you
But women, na lie, once a pimple is in the wrong place, that is it for the night, so when you now come and add Mother-in-law problem or inability to buy that house, you become celibate without your choice
So many marriages are in this wahala, and the advent of sex toys, sexual openness, peer pressure and the rest have worsened the case.
The men easily jump out to younger girls, and the women, though initially reticent, are now jumping more into other men’s arms to sexually satisfy themselves
So how do you solve this problem?
I don’t know, as many men will tell you that a sit-down and a heart-to-heart talk with madam sometimes does not achieve anything, as all you would hear is – NOTHING
So what did I advise the young man as an elder brother?
Masturbate. If you do not have the resources to jump out or the emotional maturity that comes with starting a relationship outside, you masturbate as an interim self-help option while you keep exploring avenues of getting back into madam’s warm thighs
But seriously, this denial should be criminalised, as our women have now become experts in using it as a weapon of negotiation and, in extreme cases, a weapon of blackmail and when you call their bluff and get it outside, all hell will break loose.
I really do not have answers to this dilemma and would like to throw it out there in a bid to hear from others.
Why have we stopped fucking our spouses, and what could be the possible solution
I await your feedback
Nobody should beat me on this one o, na social service I dey render.
Thanks
Duke of Shomolu
Last modified: August 16, 2026
