The matter wey you talk for here, hmmm. E get as e be, e be as e get… while the experience shared in the narration isn’t my case, I think both male and female folks who inadvertently get into sexual relationships don’t understand or understand too late that both genders desire love making differently.
Generally speaking, a man is built to desire sex wayyyy more often than women. Tripple emphasis on ‘generally speaking’.
Outside of marriage, sex is a different thing: both parties in the desired relationship plan towards, and look forward to it , for example, as you’re going to your bf house, you know that you’re going to collect. Your body anticipates it. It doesn’t happen every day. Plus you know what they say about stolen waters being sweet.
Now switch to marriage, the woman has nowhere to run. No “I’ll come around in 2 weeks time “, or “don’t worry I’ll bring you food at the weekend “ – avenues that help build up anticipation. In marriage you’re on the same bed, seeing each other every day. And the woman realises that ‘oh boy, is it how often I’d be having sex? No breather, no break? Omoooo, naaa…. It’s too much.”
And then on the man’s side, he too realises that his prick is on a different OS from the rest of his body. He can be sick with malaria plus typhoid and yet his JT is more erect than goal post. He also assumes that his wife should have the same desire for sex. Everything the wife does for and to help should ultimately lead to orgasm. An ordinary rubbing of his bald head by his wife can take him from 0 to 100 in 1 second. The slightest sight of her cleavage even in a winter clothing is enough to raise his desire.
Inherent in this sexual imbalance is the reason for this dissatisfaction. In the bible days it was okay for a man to have multiple wives and other sexual partners but the ‘propagators’ of the New Testament ideas through a more economic agenda made the idea of one man-one wife the acceptable law.. and it only became sin or forbidden when it became a law.
Over time, it came with guilt and consequences, and even became the belief system that marriages have been built on. So wives now only sees a man who desires external means of satisfaction as – cheating, because the bible frowns on adultary.
It’s easier to tag it a name than deal with it as what it really is. That way, you don’t have to try to understand it – why, what, for how long, etc.
Modern day religion/Chritianity is partly to blame for these. We love Abraham but we cast a blind eye to his sexual escapades – person sleeping with his numerous concubines and wives – but of course we don’t want to assume that he didn’t have many because the bible only glossed over it. David is another example.
Marriage was never primarily about sex (it was about the continuance of family legacy, etc) , but yes religion had to be used by the government as a tool to keep people checked in order to have the kind of modern society we now have. And as we can see- that too is changing. Definition of family is changing, religion is being strong armed to bend, because it’s always the moral compass with which the populace is swayed.
To conclude, we are all pawns in a big chess game.
A man can have multiple sex partners and still know that his wife is powerhouse, the carrier of the family bloodline and her place is never to be tampered with – this is/was how it was with Abraham and Sarah.
I have only come across 1 lady who agrees that her role isn’t for her to be the only source of her husband’s sex, because she says she can’t meet it all the way. She has better things to do other than be doing jigim jigim every day. And she said she didn’t realise it on time until it ended her first marriage.
Keep me anon jooorrr
Last modified: August 17, 2026
